Having an open and loving heart does not mean having to ignore or compromise your boundaries, nor disregard your intuition. Being open-hearted does not mean you have to spend time with people or situations that annoy your or compromise your safety. You are not a doormat. You are not even a dish towel. You are a being filled with strength, knowing, beauty, and a wise wise heart.
I recently found myself in a very challenging situation, where I had a choice as to whether to listen to my intuition and possibly upset another, or appease the wishes of another to keep them happy. How many times have you done something just to please another even though your body or your heart or something! inside you was begging you not to? The thing is, if I had not been practicing listening to my inner guidance and actually following its advice these past years, I don’t know that I would have listened and followed suit on this day. Too much at risk on the other end: seriously upsetting a friend and risking our friendship, having to exist in that uncomfortable dynamic with the other person for hours (we were not in a situation to be able to escape one another’s company), and being seen as a heartless witch…aka: bitch.
I share this story to emphasize this point: having an open and loving heart does not always create happy sunny situations. You may have to say no and risk upsetting another. You may find yourself scared to take action. It may just be plain uncomfortable. But always, when you come out the other end, there is peace and greater strength there.
In the end, I knew I had made the right choice because I felt calm and at ease- even with the anger of another directed at me. I was proud of myself and felt energized in a way that doesn’t come from selfish and thoughtless actions. And when all was said and done, I held no anger or resentment towards myself, nor my friend.
Having an open heart means being still enough to hear the wisdom of all those forces within and without that guide you along in this life. It’s about trusting yourself. It’s seeing the beauty in others through their imperfections, seeing your own beauty through your own imperfections. It is being able to offer forgiveness. It’s being empathetic towards your own kaleidoscope of emotions, as well as others. Having an open and loving heart is about being able to receive what life offers you, exactly as it comes.
“and i will trust these wings
that they will not fail
open up my heart
let it be my sail”